This is me, the pot:
Fun to be with
Intelligent
Compassionate
A great mom
A hard worker
Easy to get along with
Follower of Christ
A servant with a desire for service (ministry)
A decent singer
An aspiring writer
Pretty on the outside
A great conversationalist
Beautiful on the inside
Lover of God's Word
A great friend
Loyal
Fat
Optimistic
A teacher (at heart)
Entertaining
Supportive
Loving
Ambitious
Healthy
Easy Going
Articulate
Spontaneous
A good sister
Educated
A good daughter
Creative
Frugal
Hopeful
I've heard it said that "there's a lid for every pot." So the question here...where is my lid?
Even with all of the qualities that I've listed, something crucial must be missing because I am still a "lidless pot".
I've noticed many women who have traits that are far less appealing with nasty attitudes, vulgar language, lazy, mean, etc...yet they have "lids". What gives?
No, this isn't a "pity party", it's merely an observation. Just trying to put the pieces of the puzzle together so that I can see the whole picture.
So our TOPIC OF THE DAY is this: Do YOU believe that there is a lid for every pot, or is it just a hopeless fairy tale?
Talk to me!
Til next time...
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I think the sentiment that there is "someone for everyone" falls under the same paradox that all of life's mysteries do. It's true and not true at the same time. There is no perfect person for anyone. We've been influenced from childhood to believe in "perfect love". All the love stories end after the prince finds the princess and they live happily ever after. They never show the couple struggling to stay together. It's not as fun to dwell on the reality, but that IS the reality, that love is not perfect. Love will hurt you, and that's factual. You must take the bad with the good. Many of us are too afraid to risk some heartache. It's the truth. People seek out relationships that are very superficial and easy to abandon because the risk of pain is less. The deeper love is, the more chance for hurt. But love is like anything else ventured. The risk takers tend to net the greatest results. If there is someone that always has a date to go on, it's because they put themselves in that position enough times that the odds turn in their favor. People that go fishing say that different fish like different bait. If you are fishing with the wrong bait, then you won't hook that fish. You can cast right, and be in the right water, but the fish won't bite. If you know what kind of person you want to attract, then you know what to bait with, and be in the place where that person might be, and make yourself available. Then wait for the odds to complete the deal. Sometimes, you have to consider that maybe you are holding back on really wanting to connect with someone because a fear is present. It's possible. It might take some daring to step beyond the comfort zone and concentrate on wanting to attract someone. It takes patience and it takes initiative. But it happens when you really want it to, just that it takes place at an unexpected time. Very frustrating. But if you are a girl (which you are) then why not have fun with all the things that work for girls? The right clothes work, the right makeup works, the right hair works, and intentionally putting out the vibe that you would like to be approached works. It has to be fun, or you won't want to do it. Make yourself do it. LOL! You could meet the right person anywhere if you are trying to do it. If you have been too long without getting a reaction, then it's time to go the different route. Decide what you want, and then get yourself in the position to let the odds work for you. Someone out there wants to meet you, and that is a sound presumption. People do it all the time. There is some risk involved, but romantic love one of the most desired things on the planet, and you simply must indulge! Even if you miss the mark, keep playing until you win. It's okay if you have been avoiding having to take the chance. We all do it. But, go the different direction and make it a priority if you really want it. Get out with friends and meet people. It's too easy to stay at home nowadays. Play the odds, and your turn will come. There is no perfect love, only the love we make perfect for each other.
ReplyDeleteDear Anonymous,
ReplyDeleteIf I didn't know any better I'd think that you're someone who actually knows me. You've got me pegged to a tee. Perhaps because of my previous posts, or maybe just because my situation isn't much different than most single women. You make so many great points.
"Love will hurt you, and that's factual."
This I know all too well. Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt.
"Sometimes, you have to consider that maybe you are holding back on really wanting to connect with someone because a fear is present."
To this, I would definitely have to agree. Fear (of rejection) is always present, so I avoid situations that may bring about rejection. Gotta get past that...I know.
"It takes patience and it takes initiative. But it happens when you really want it to, just that it takes place at an unexpected time."
Frustrating yes, but promising at the same time.
"It's okay if you have been avoiding having to take the chance."
Yes I have been.
"But, go the different direction and make it a priority if you really want it."
I will, and I do.
"It's too easy to stay at home nowadays."
That it is, and although the online dating thing seems to be the trend, I'm an old fashioned girl who still believes in gazing across the room, locking eyes, sparking conversation and taking it from there. That's not going to happen sitting here in my living room.
"There is no perfect love, only the love we make perfect for each other."
That's beautiful and so so true.
Points have been well taken. Thank you so much for your wonderful comment.